Does love always culminate in marriage? Does a marriage indicate the presence of a perfect love? Do spouses always remain faithful lovers? There aren’t any answers to these questions.
It’s strange that every person strives to lead a happily married content life yet some others yearn for companionship. Those who get lucky find both in a marriage. Yet some others find a married life and seem to be contented but look for companionship in someone else. Some people just aren’t destined to be together and some others who just aren’t compatible enough.
If you don’t go looking for love, you won’t find it. But what if love’s knocking at your door when you’re not even expecting it? Do you choose to be a martyr and not respond? Or do you count your blessings and make yourself a little happy? And even if you do, is it worth trampling on your spouses trust, your marriage to fulfill your own dreams? Who knows what a lonely heart goes through? Is it fair to turn your back on love, on a heart that loves you for precisely what you are, with all your faults? Just because society feels it’s wrong?
But still, it is wrong to hurt a heart that loves you though you don’t love it back. If you do get married to someone who loves you though you don’t, you are most at fault because though you haven’t loved that person but you’ve given them a false hope. A hope that you’ll love them back someday and justify their feeling. What if you don’t feel that way in the future? And worse still what if you want to share your dreams and yourself with another person? Then, you’ve hurt your spouse more than anything else. Besides a heart, you’ve broken your own marriage and someone else’s trust.
If you do have a problem with your spouse, then who better to talk to than him. Looking for support in another person also going through a rough married life is an attempt to complete your life by engulfing someone else’s loneliness. And that won’t do wonders for a marriage. By sharing your lonely self with another person, you’re depriving your own spouse of an opportunity to complete you. And that’s not what a marriage stands for.
If you can’t sort out your marital issues with your own spouse then do him a favor and walk out of the marriage without him hating you for the rest of your life.
Despite the pain and anguish you do cause to your spouse, if your love does indeed succeed, you may spend all your life wondering was it all worth it? Was it worth reaching your goal, when your path had to cross a broken heart?
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